Sunday, July 09, 2006
was reading a blog i frequently lurked (the stalker i am, sheesh), the author "... got this from a forum I frequent and I agree with it so much that I cannot resist posting it up here to share it with everyone" .... and in turn i want to share with my lil group of readers/friends - it does provides a perspective that im slowly aligning myself with, and my ownself fallen unwittingly into the same pattern of being too hasty in handling my relationships, including the ONE that im still in/out of. Here it goes : The Law Of Scarcity
How good would it be to know you could be in control of yourself as a relationship develops, and make sure that develops in the best way for both of you?
The law of scarcity means that when we can't have something, we want it more. And when we know we can have as much as we want of something, we want it less.
Grasp this, and you will be able to meet, and keep interested, the date of your dreams.
Imagine you are a looking at a plate, with one small chunk of the finest bar of milk chocolate on it. There is a sign next to it, which says, "This chocolate is the finest chocolate in the world. It is so rare, it is only sold in a handful of shops around the world".
Assuming you like eating chocolate, the odds are by this point, you would be very excited about trying this one small chunk of chocolate. And once you'd eaten it, you'd probably very much look forward to the next time you tried it.
Now imagine another plate, piled high with chunks of chocolate. The sign says "Eat as much as you can of this chocolate, we just can't get rid of it quickly enough". You'd soon become bored of eating the free chocolate they can't shift, because there would be nothing special about it.
In dating, as you go through that awkward and difficult process of getting to know someone, it is important to apply the law of scarcity. If you give someone diamonds every day, they won't be special anymore, because they know they can have diamonds from you all the time.
If, when you first start dating someone, you call them every day, they'll never wake up in the morning and say to themselves, "wouldn't it be fantastic if they called me today?!", because they know you will call them.
The words "I love you" are a great example of how you can apply the law of scarcity. If you occasionally tell your partner that you love them, they'll know that you mean it, and cherish each and every time that you say "I love you".
If you tell your partner, "I love you", 50 times a day, the words will lose their appeal. Isn't it incredible how in this instance, the very same words, have far less value, because they're uttered so regularly.
I have a friend who wanted very much to find a man she could fall in love with. Every time she'd meet a guy, she'd be texting him and calling him the next day, sometimes two or three times. Guys would never be interested, and she just didn't realize it was because they perceived her as being too available.
After I told her about the law of scarcity, things changed. She decided to wait a few days before ringing a guy she was interested in, or she'd let them call her, and of course men became a lot more interested in her.
She's now married...
Remember the law of scarcity, and make sure you are the chunk of rare chocolate that your partner wants more of.*ponders*
wen|ong @ 1:39 AM
Parting is such sweet sorrow,
That I shall say 'Good night' till it be morrow.
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